Feb

The Truth About Responsibility

A big part of the Stop Workplace Drama message is personal responsibility. The more responsible you are, the better your life in every area. The areas where you are least responsible are the areas where you will have the most drama.

I am clear that when I complain and do not seek a solution, in some way I’m not being fully responsible, if not for the situation, then at least for my outlook and attitude.

I have experienced the reality that any area where I’m having difficulty and not learning from the difficulty is an area where I might be Read More→

Categories : Release Resistance

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Feb

Three Communication Mistakes and Alternatives

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Have you ever gotten into an argument with someone and didn’t know how it happened? Whether it’s a workplace relationship or a conversation with a friend, a simple communication mistake can contribute to unwanted relationship drama. This post will focus on the communication mistake of giving advice when it’s not wanted.

Communication Mistake: Giving Unwanted Advice

Mistake #1 ”If I were you…”
This statement starts out innocently, as a way to connect. Most likely you are listening to someone complain about a situation and their complaint signals the “rescuer” in you who just wants the complaining to stop already. So, Read More→

Categories : Communication Skills, Stop Relationship Drama

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Feb

The Truth About Relationship Drama

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Karpman Triangle Whether it’s disruptive behavior in the workplace, drama in your family-owned business or the secret issues that threaten your marriage, the Drama Triangle helps you to access the situation so you can pluck drama out at the core. In fact, I dedicated a whole chapter in my book,
Stop Workplace Drama, to the issue of relationship drama.

Most of us buy into the illusion that workplace relationships are different than personal relationships. The truth is, all relationship drama, whether it’s at work or at home, have the same core issues, which are illustrated on the drama triangle: A persecutor, Read More→

Categories : Communication Skills, Stop Relationship Drama, Workplace Relationships

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Jan

Six Words That Keep You Stuck

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Six words that keep you stuck

You can tell a lot about a person by what phrase comes after the two words, “I am.” The way you define yourself impacts every area of your life including your workplace relationships. Listen closely and you can tell a lot about your employees, your co-workers and of course your leaders. You will hear everything from, “I’m a perfectionist,” to “I’m a people-pleaser” to “I’m a bitch.” Often the person defining themselves recognizes that the way they show up in the world is a disadvantage, yet just as often their analysis and description of self is followed by a justification Read More→

Categories : General, Reinvent and Realign

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Jan

Make Friends With Accountability to Get Results

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While at the fitness club today I got on a stretching machine. There is a measurement tool that measures your level of flexibility. Two weeks ago I was at 70 and today I was at 90. The tool is motivating me to check my progress.

You see, I could stretch every day and not really know for sure if I’m improving, but this little accountability tool helps me to know the difference between where I was and where I am now.

I look forward to measuring my progress. I wasn’t always this way. I have had a love-hate relationship with Read More→

Categories : Managing and Leading, Tell Yourself the Truth

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Jan

Engagement, Systems and Rewards Equals Productive Down Time

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Question: My staff doesn’t use their “down time” effectively. They just spread out their work to match the time allotment.

Answer: This is a matter of engagement, systems and rewards. Here are some tips to help you help them to keep busy!

Ask for ideas
In a monthly meeting, ask for their help with what to do with down time. (This is the engagement part.)

Keep a Visible “To-Do” List
You may want to “rate” each task as a 1-2 or 3. Then you have each person who is finished with their work to select a task to finish Read More→

Categories : Master Your Energy

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