Robert Fritz, author of The Path of Least Resistance says, “Those who live their lives destructively are not in touch with their power to create.” When I first read this statement I thought about teen drama, juvenile delinquents spraying graffiti on buildings or those who commit criminal acts.
However when thinking deeply about this statement, I had a moment of enlightenment: There are two additional levels just below destruction, and that is distraction, and disguised distractions.
Two Obstacles to Creating What Matters To You
2. Disguised Distractions
Distractions People use distractions for a variety of reasons, including entertainment, avoiding facing a difficult reality, horse-play to avoid boredom, or risk-taking for the thrill of excitement. Distractions can be bitter distractions, conscious distractions, unconscious distractions, avoidance distractions and so on.
The list of distractions grouped together the list ranges from gossip to verbal abuse to more fun distractions like shopping and compulsive eating. Here’s a quick Checklist.
- Compulsive eating
- Self criticism
- Blaming others
- Temper tantrums
- Verbal abuse
The bottom line is this: Anything that you do that does not get you to your end result (your vision) whether it’s a distraction or destruction can keep you from creating what really matters to you.
Let’s think about how business owners and entrepreneurs get distracted. I call this kind of distraction “drowning in a sea of choice.” Distractions of this level are deceiving because they look productive on the outside, or the distraction can be disguised as an opportunity to increase revenues, leverage, or grow. Very often we put labels on this type of behavior so that we can justify it. Here are some of the justifications:
- I’m so busy I barely have time to breathe
- I’m so creative that I just can’t help myself
- I have attention deficiet disorder
- I just have so many ideas I want to see come to fruition
- I’m dropping balls because of my overwhelm
- I’m a creative genius so I have a hard time focusing
- I’m right brained
- I’m an XYZ on the Myers Briggs, Eneagram, Color Wheel
- I’m a Pices with a moon in Taurus and aspects in…
- I’m a perfectionist
- I’m left brained and have to have order
My friend and fellow consultant Shawn Casemore says “Vision is a decision-making tool,” in a recent post.
If you are not completely clear about your vision, you may resort to destructive behaviors or disguised distractions, or you will make excuses about why you can’t get the results you want. I say this from compassion as one who used to be so easily distracted.
I would like to add to what Robert Fritz says by saying this: Those who get easily distracted are either not in touch with their real desires or they do not understand the process of creating. (With that said, I’m not including real medical issues, but the reality of what we all experience in these busy times.)
Regarding creating what you really want, I’m not talking creating something off the cuff, experimenting, or making something happen impromptu. I’m talking about creating something, whether it’s a product, a business, or a life, from beginning to end starting with a vision, and ending in a desired result that you would recognize as a success to such an extent that you know beyond your wildest doubts that you are indeed a creator.
Stay tuned for more about the process of creating, how to use vision, tension and focus to create a life or a business that you really want, and what I’m learning from others who have been mentors and thought leaders in my life.